Machismo Caterer Loses $9,000 in Business After Disrespecting the Woman in Charge of the Event, She Refuses to Work With Him Because of His Outdated Male Bravado

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    When male bravado costs you thousands Sometimes the best answer is no answer and silence is loud to provocators. I went for a food tasting recently at an Indian restaurant for an event me and
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    my 3 older male colleagues / friends are planning. The owner of the restaurant assumed immediately that 1 of my guy friends was the one with the money and the one in charge. I'm a rather subdued person when you first meet me so I don't blame him for that mix up.
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    Upon the food tasting he was doing a good sales pitch and tried to drop some humour in there. We started talking about catering and he turns to my male friend and asks if I can cook because I don't look like it from how skinny I am- obviously
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    assuming I'm someone's wife and not speaking to me directly as if I wasn't on equal parts. I simply stared at him blankly, intensely enough for him to feel uncomfortable. Even replying to such a stupid comment is beyond me, it wasn't a scowl
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    but it was enough of a unreadable expression that he could tell that I didn't approve. Immediately he retracted and said "I'm sorry I'm being an awkward uncle".
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    That wasn't enough to make me say no the venue however. We started talking about corkage and supplying drinks and so forth and as I'm the younger one of the lot he turns to 1 of the men and says "you'll need a
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    limit on shots because you know the younger ones- gestures to me- can go a bit crazy". My friend told him that I don't drink (as a bhuddist) and then he pressed on and said my friends probably do because you know how "girls go wild". Its
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    a professional event, and I came as a professional but at that point I felt as if I was being treated like a young bimbo. Again, I'm the one with the deposit and final say so I didn't feel the need to say anything apart from glare at him.
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    After the tasting he was very sure that it was a done deal so before even getting a yes from us he turns up at the table with the cost spreadsheet and the card reader. I was still contemplating weather to book this place, of course the
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    manager is an a but the price is good and I care more for getting the job done. As a joke, as if this was funniest thing ever, he passes me the card machine and says "£500 deposit" laughs, as if the idea that I was going to pay was the most outlandish thing and says
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    "don't worry look at her face, just kidding". Again, I simply stared and the rest of the men around me were looking down really uncomfortably- it was a joke that bombed at the table with awkward silence.
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    I told him we really appreciate the food, but the venue isn't really what we're looking for. It was the first time we had addressed each other properly all evening and he looked very confused to hear it from me.
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    Again he turned to my male friend to double check what I said and my friend said "Well it is her event" and the manager face dropped. The truth was I wasn't really happy with minimum capacity of the venue
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    and I didn't like the fact they were also renting out upstairs for a separate event- so I had valid reasons to decline but his lack of social awareness really tipped my decision over the
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    very confused to hear it from me. Again he turned to my male friend to double check what I said and my friend said "Well it is her event" and the managers face dropped
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    Designer-Account1836 The way you just glared at him until the very end, then mic dropped! Best way to handle this, both professionally and pettily (is that a word?)!
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    ScammerC "I don't like your attitude and don't think we can work together" is a perfectly valid reason to not use a vendor. It's your money, you don't owe him anything.
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    jlzania I have always done the research on any vehicles we purchased including our tractor. The salesmen would always address my husband FIRST and he would just smile and say "Talk to her."
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    edge. His attitude lost him around 9k in business and I hope it stings. It was so satisfying seeing his awkward expression when he realised I was the decision maker.

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